11 Years Old, a Mom, and Pushed to Marry Her Rapist in Florida

By: Nicholas Kristof

WHEN she was a scrawny 11-year-old, Sherry Johnson found out one day that she was about to be married to a 20-year-old member of her church who had raped her.

“It was forced on me,” she recalls. She had become pregnant, she says, and child welfare authorities were investigating — so her family and church officials decided the simplest way to avoid a messy criminal case was to organize a wedding.

“My mom asked me if I wanted to get married, and I said, ‘I don’t know, what is marriage, how do I act like a wife?’” Johnson remembers today, many years later. “She said, ‘Well, I guess you’re just going to get married.’”

So she was. A government clerk in Tampa, Fla., refused to marry an 11-year-old, even though this was legal in the state, so the wedding party went to nearby Pinellas County, where the clerk issued a marriage license. The license (which I’ve examined) lists her birth date, so officials were aware of her age.

Not surprisingly, the marriage didn’t work out — two-thirds of marriages of underage girls don’t last, one study found — but it did interrupt Johnson’s attendance at elementary school. Today she is campaigning for a state law to curb underage marriages, part of a nationwide movement to end child marriage in America. Meanwhile, children 16 and under are still being married in Florida at a rate of one every few days.

You’re thinking: “Child marriage? That’s what happens in Bangladesh or Tanzania, not America!”

In fact, more than 167,000 young people age 17 and under married in 38 states between 2000 and 2010, according to a search of available marriage license data by a group called Unchained at Last, which aims to ban child marriage. The search turned up cases of 12-year-old girls married in Alaska, Louisiana and South Carolina, while other states simply had categories of “14 and younger.”

Unchained at Last was not able to get data for the other states. But it extrapolated that in the entire country, there were almost 250,000 child marriages between 2000 and 2010. Some backing for that estimate comes from the U.S. Census Bureau, which says that at least 57,800 Americans age 15 to 17 reported being in marriages in 2014.

Among the states with the highest rates of child marriages were Arkansas, Idaho and Kentucky. The number of child marriages has been falling, but every state in America still allows underage girls to marry, typically with the consent of parents, a judge or both. Twenty-seven states do not even set a minimum age by statute, according to the Tahirih Justice Center’s Forced Marriage Initiative.

A great majority of the child marriages involve girls and adult men. Such a sexual relationship would often violate statutory rape laws, but marriage sometimes makes it legal.

In New Hampshire, a girl scout named Cassandra Levesque learned that girls in her state could marry at 13. So she set out to change the law.

A legislator sponsored Cassandra’s bill to raise the age to 18, and researchers found that two 15-year-olds had recently married in New Hampshire, along with one 13-year-old. But politicians resisted the initiative.

“We’re asking the Legislature to repeal a law that’s been on the books for over a century, that’s been working without difficulty, on the basis of a request from a minor doing a Girl Scout project,” scoffed one state representative, David Bates. In March the Republican-led House voted to kill the bill, leaving the minimum age at 13. (Legislators seem willing to marry off girls like Cassandra, but not to listen to them!)

New Jersey lawmakers passed a bill that would make their state the first in the country to ban marriages of people under 18, but Gov. Chris Christie this month blocked the legislation. New York legislators are considering a bill backed by Gov. Andrew Cuomo to raise the age to 17, from the current minimum, 14.

Opponents worry that raising the age will lead to out-of-wedlock births, and they note that many underage marriages are consensual.

Globally, a girl marries before the age of 15 every seven seconds, according to estimates by Save the Children. As in Africa and Asia, the reasons for such marriages in the U.S. are often cultural or religious; the American families follow conservative Christian, Muslim or Jewish traditions, and judges sometimes feel that they shouldn’t intrude on other cultures.

Johnson, the former 11-year-old unwitting bride who is now fighting for Florida to set a minimum marriage age (there is none now), says that her family attended a conservative Pentecostal church and that other girls of a similar age periodically also married. Often, she says, this was to hide rapes by church elders.

She says she was raped by both a minister and a parishioner and gave birth to a daughter when she was just 10 (the birth certificate confirms that). A judge approved the marriage to end the rape investigation, she says, telling her, “What we want is for you to get married.”

“It was a terrible life,” Johnson recalls, recounting her years as a child raising children. She missed school and remembers spending her days changing diapers, arguing with her husband and struggling to pay expenses. She ended up with pregnancy after pregnancy — nine children in all — while her husband periodically abandoned her.

“They took the handcuffs from handcuffing him,” she says, referring to the risk he faced of arrest for rape, “to handcuffing me, by marrying me without me knowing what I was doing.”

“You can’t get a job, you can’t get a car, you can’t get a license, you can’t sign a lease,” she adds, “so why allow someone to marry when they’re still so young?”

Those are precisely the reasons marriages for even 17-year-olds are problematic, according to Fraidy Reiss, who founded Unchained at Last to fight forced marriage and child marriage. Bullied by their parents into marriage, she says, girls may feel powerless to object — and fearful of telling a judge that they don’t want to wed. If they try to flee an abusive marriage, they are turned away from shelters and may be treated as simple runaways.

Some judges and clerks intervene on behalf of young girls; others do not. Reiss says one clerk told a 16-year-old bride: “Don’t cry. This is supposed to be the happiest day of your life.”

“For almost all of them,” says Reiss, “marriage means rape on their wedding night and thereafter.” Reiss, now 42, says she was forced into a marriage at age 19 by her ultra-Orthodox Jewish family.

Lyndsy Duet, now a school counselor in Texas, told me that she was forced into a marriage at 17 after enduring a series of rapes beginning when she was 14, by a young man her conservative Christian family had taken into the house. Confused, shamed and helpless, she didn’t speak up — but her rapist did.

“He asked my parents if he could marry me,” Duet remembers. “My mom was crying, she was so happy.”

Duet felt powerless to resist her parents’ pressure — and it was eight years before she could flee what she says was a violent marriage. Once, she says, her husband threatened her with a chain saw, and it was only when she went to college on her own and proved a brilliant student (she graduated first in her class) that she was able to escape.

“Most girls who reach out to us love their families,” Reiss says, “and their primary concern is that they don’t want their families to get into trouble.”

The United States has denounced child marriage in other countries as a “human rights abuse that contributes to economic hardship,” in the words of a State Department document published last year.

Let’s listen to ourselves. State legislators must understand that child marriage is devastating in Niger and Afghanistan — and also in New York and Florida. It’s past time to end child marriage right here at home.

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Unicef: 200 Million FGM Cases Worldwide, Many in Indonesia

The article originally published on Jakarta Globe.

Jakarta. Indonesia has one of the world’s highest numbers of women and girls undergoing female genital mutilation and cutting, newly collected data from the United Nations Children’s Fund (Unicef) shows.

The world’s largest Muslim-majority country, together with Egypt and Ethiopia, accounts for half of the more than 200 million women and girls alive today who have fallen victim to the practice, Unicef says. The total number is considerably — about 70 million — higher than previous UN estimates.

About half of all Indonesian girls aged 11 and younger have undergone a form of FGM, the report says.

“Female genital mutilation differs across regions and cultures, with some forms involving life-threatening health risks,” Unicef deputy executive director Geeta Rao Gupta was quoted as saying in a press statement released on Friday (05/02). “In every case FGM violates the rights of girls and women. We must all accelerate efforts — governments, health professionals, community leaders, parents and families — to eliminate the practice.”

Unicef says in its report that there has been an overall global decline in the prevalence of FGM in the past decades, but the prospect is that this decline will not be enough to outpace population growth in countries like Indonesia.

“If current trends continue the number of girls and women subjected to FMG will increase significantly over the next 15 years,” Unicef says.

FGM is banned in Indonesia, but it is performed in many parts of the country regardless. The Health Ministry has previously said it was aware of the negative consequences of FGM, but that the practice was primarily rooted in traditional beliefs.

As female circumcision is not a medical procedure, a senior Health Ministry official has argued, there is little the ministry can do in terms of rules and regulations.

According to Unicef, however, FGM in Indonesia is often done by trained medical professionals.

Lies Marcoes, an expert on Islam and gender issues, told the Jakarta Globe that it remains hard to find correct numbers on the prevalence of FGM, but that the government should step in to put an end to the practice.

“In Indonesia the trend is becoming stronger because of the Islamization of [our] culture and the commercialization of health services,” she said, adding that there are various degrees of severity when it comes to FGM in Indonesia — all rooted in the assumption that women’s sexuality needs to be controlled.

“Whatever its form, merely symbolic or by actually hurting [a girl], it has to be forbidden. No tolerance. This is not a religious law, and even if it were, there is no benefit for anybody,” Lies said.  “The state should not give in to [people advocating] such primordial and harmful practices.”

Girls and women worldwide affected

“Available data from large-scale representative surveys show that the practice of FGM/C is highly concentrated in a swath of countries from the Atlantic coast to the Horn of Africa, in areas of the Middle East such as Iraq and Yemen and in some countries in Asia like Indonesia,” says the Unicef report, titled “Female Genital Mutilation/Cutting: A Global Concern.”

“However,” the report adds, “FGM/C is a human rights issue that affects girls and women worldwide. Evidence suggests that FGM/C exists in some places in South America such as Colombia, and elsewhere in the world including in India, Malaysia, Oman, Saudi Arabia, and the United Arab Emirates, with large variations in terms of the type performed, circumstances surrounding the practice and size of the affected population groups.”

In a separate press statement, the executive director of the UN Population Fund (UNFPA), Babatunde Osotimehin, and Unicef executive director Anthony Lake said FGM “is a violent practice, scarring girls for life — endangering their health, depriving them of their rights, and denying them the chance to reach their full potential. ”

“There simply is no place for FGM in the future we are striving to create — a future where every girl will grow up able to experience her inherent dignity, human rights and equality by 2030,” they added.

Sustainable Development Goals

The Indonesian Commission for Child Protection (KPAI) has called on the government to do more against FGM, starting by taking a clear stance on the matter.

KPAI commissioner Maria Ulfah Anshor previously pointed outthat FGM is a violation of Indonesia’s child protection law as well as a number of human rights principles and international conventions that Indonesia has ratified.

Maria Ulfah said in September last year that the government should act quickly and decisively by providing “complete, honest and accurate information about opinions on and the effects of female circumcision, so that people can steer clear from this dangerous practice.”

Indonesia’s Minister for Women’s Empowerment and Child Protection, Yohana Yambise was slated attend a high-level event at the United Nations in New York on Monday to mark International Day of Zero Tolerance for Female Genital Mutilation, which falls on Feb. 6.

The eradication of FGM by 2030 is part of the Sustainable Development Goals that world leaders, including the Indonesian government, agreed to last year.

The fifth SDG, “Achieve gender equality and empower all women and girls,” specifically calls for the end of “all forms of discrimination against all women and girls everywhere” and the elimination of “all harmful practices, such as child, early and forced marriage and female genital mutilations.”

Din Syamsuddin, chairman of the Indonesian Ulema Council (MUI) and former longtime chairman of Muhammadiyah, is amember of the Sustainable Development Solution Network (SDSN), a UN initiative, representing the Islamic world.

Adding to the confusion surrounding the government’s stance on the practice in Indonesia, MUI in 2008 issued a controversial fatwa that condoned FGM.

The semi-official MUI is Indonesia’s top Islamic advisory body.

Parents here mostly cite religious reasons for allowing the procedure, even as a growing number of religious leaders in Indonesia and elsewhere contend that there is no basis in Islam for FGM.